Comments on: Invitation to a Bash http://bisocialnetwork.com/invitation-to-a-bash/ Bi News & Opinion, Bisexual Entertainment | Bi Social Network is where bisexual men and women go to network, connect and share their daily lives. Sat, 14 Jan 2012 03:56:28 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Adam Borders http://bisocialnetwork.com/invitation-to-a-bash/comment-page-1/#comment-277 Adam Borders Mon, 08 Feb 2010 22:15:44 +0000 http://bisocialnews.com/?p=2565#comment-277 Thank you for your comment! I welcome the praise as well as the criticism. If I shied away from the negative comments I can never push myself to get better. I re-read this piece with your thoughts in mind and I can see your point of view. When writing it, my focus wasn't so much on what had happened to me, it was on the entire idea of being bashed and in fact, I wrestled with the idea of adding the personal account. From the second paragraph on, I explore what bashing is, its roots (being homophobia) and how it affects the BLGT culture. The one thing I would point out, however, is that you stated "Placing a stupid, childish, hurtful and stinging personal insult flung in anger on a spectrum with victims of hate crimes who have lost lives, livelihoods, the right to residences, property, personal freedom, hearing, limbs and more is not an effective juxtaposition." If this were a different situation and we were talking about a particular verbal slur against another oppressed group of people then I think we'd be looking at it differently. The point is, whether or not its a verbal or physical, its still a bash and its still an act of hate and its still something that shouldn't be accepted, in my opinion. I agree with you that a little more content could have and should have been added to clarify the position on what bashing is versus my personal story and I do appreciate you pointing that out. Like I said, that's the only way I can be a better writer. Thanks for reading the piece and I hope you've enjoyed my other contributions to the site! Thank you for your comment! I welcome the praise as well as the criticism. If I shied away from the negative comments I can never push myself to get better.

I re-read this piece with your thoughts in mind and I can see your point of view. When writing it, my focus wasn’t so much on what had happened to me, it was on the entire idea of being bashed and in fact, I wrestled with the idea of adding the personal account.

From the second paragraph on, I explore what bashing is, its roots (being homophobia) and how it affects the BLGT culture. The one thing I would point out, however, is that you stated “Placing a stupid, childish, hurtful and stinging personal insult flung in anger on a spectrum with victims of hate crimes who have lost lives, livelihoods, the right to residences, property, personal freedom, hearing, limbs and more is not an effective juxtaposition.” If this were a different situation and we were talking about a particular verbal slur against another oppressed group of people then I think we’d be looking at it differently. The point is, whether or not its a verbal or physical, its still a bash and its still an act of hate and its still something that shouldn’t be accepted, in my opinion.

I agree with you that a little more content could have and should have been added to clarify the position on what bashing is versus my personal story and I do appreciate you pointing that out. Like I said, that’s the only way I can be a better writer. Thanks for reading the piece and I hope you’ve enjoyed my other contributions to the site!

]]> By: iphimedia http://bisocialnetwork.com/invitation-to-a-bash/comment-page-1/#comment-274 iphimedia Mon, 08 Feb 2010 19:36:02 +0000 http://bisocialnews.com/?p=2565#comment-274 Generally I am impressed with the caliber not just of relevance and passion but the writing of the blogs and articles this web site offers, but this was one of the weaker ones. A well-crafted, focused, succint article on bashing with some original thinking, ideas, stories, resources or history would be welcome but this article didn't know where it wanted to go and seemed to try to incorporate and linke every current GLBT issue in the media. I got the impression the author wanted to air his understandably hurtful story and link it to a broader political issue, but it just doesn't work. Placing a stupid, childish, hurtful and stinging personal insult flung in anger on a spectrum with victims of hate crimes who have lost lives, livelihoods, the right to residences, property, personal freedom, hearing, limbs and more is not an effective juxtaposition. Such a comparison does not get the author's no doubt good intention across effectively and only dilutes the issue by making the reader why the writer chose to start from such a personal standpoint. Generally I am impressed with the caliber not just of relevance and passion but the writing of the blogs and articles this web site offers, but this was one of the weaker ones. A well-crafted, focused, succint article on bashing with some original thinking, ideas, stories, resources or history would be welcome but this article didn’t know where it wanted to go and seemed to try to incorporate and linke every current GLBT issue in the media. I got the impression the author wanted to air his understandably hurtful story and link it to a broader political issue, but it just doesn’t work. Placing a stupid, childish, hurtful and stinging personal insult flung in anger on a spectrum with victims of hate crimes who have lost lives, livelihoods, the right to residences, property, personal freedom, hearing, limbs and more is not an effective juxtaposition. Such a comparison does not get the author’s no doubt good intention across effectively and only dilutes the issue by making the reader why the writer chose to start from such a personal standpoint.

]]> By: Bi Social Network http://bisocialnetwork.com/invitation-to-a-bash/comment-page-1/#comment-275 Bi Social Network Mon, 08 Feb 2010 19:10:43 +0000 http://bisocialnews.com/?p=2565#comment-275 Hi Iphimedia, Just the fact that you love what Bi Social Network is trying to showcase and you keep coming back to read our work gives me great joy! I thank you for your feedback, and I can understand your viewpoint. I will say that I (Adrienne Founder of Bi Social Network) have given our writers a great deal of freedom when expressing their artistic expression and will continue to do so. One of the goals of this site is to not necessarily make everyone feel fresh and happy about a political, entertainment or social topic. if fact, my goal is to shake things up and start debate! Seems like this article has started to do just that! We welcome positive and not so warm and fuzzy comments on this interactive blog! As long as they are constructive, as this one was, so again thank you for your feedback! Though you are not happy with this particular point-of-view regarding personal tone, we hope you continue to check back often to see what all our writers are doing and saying! Adrienne, BSN Hi Iphimedia,

Just the fact that you love what Bi Social Network is trying to showcase and you keep coming back to read our work gives me great joy! I thank you for your feedback, and I can understand your viewpoint. I will say that I (Adrienne Founder of Bi Social Network) have given our writers a great deal of freedom when expressing their artistic expression and will continue to do so. One of the goals of this site is to not necessarily make everyone feel fresh and happy about a political, entertainment or social topic. if fact, my goal is to shake things up and start debate! Seems like this article has started to do just that! We welcome positive and not so warm and fuzzy comments on this interactive blog! As long as they are constructive, as this one was, so again thank you for your feedback!

Though you are not happy with this particular point-of-view regarding personal tone, we hope you continue to check back often to see what all our writers are doing and saying!

Adrienne, BSN

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