No Longer Defending The Indefensible

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“If your marriage needs protecting, you need a therapist, not an amendment.” I first saw that quote at an anti DOMA (Defense Of Marriage Act) protest, and I thought it described my feelings on DOMA pretty well. I thought of it again recently (and found it online) a couple of weeks ago when the Bisexual, Lesbian, Gay and Transgender (BLGT) community got some more great news. The Obama administration announced that it could not and would not support DOMA anymore because it was unconstitutional. Finally! Continue reading »

The War for Equality

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Photograph by Brett Lock (http://brettlock.blogspot.com)

The BLGT community has been enjoying a lot of victory and support of late. Gay, lesbian and bisexual people are portrayed positively on our televisions and in film, there are many gay, lesbian and bisexual performing artists and now the community has begun to realize some real life victories. Don’t Ask Don’t Tell has been repealed by a 234-194 vote. The Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) has been repealed—making the definition of marriage something that State governments determine rather than Federal. Joining this list of victories is the overturning of California’s “Prop 8” bill declaring:

“Plaintiffs have demonstrated by overwhelming evidence that Proposition 8 violates their due process and equal protection rights and that they will continue to suffer these constitutional violations until state officials cease enforcement of Proposition 8. California is able to issue marriage licenses to same-sex couples, as it has already issued 18,000 marriage licenses to same-sex couples and has not suffered any demonstrated harm as a result [. . .] moreover, California officials have chosen not to defend Proposition 8 in these proceedings.”

With so many victories under our collective belts it can be easy to trick one ’s self into believing that the war for equality is being won. The danger in believing this is that it tempts us to forget the other battles that are being fought.

A report from the Kyrgyz Republic—released days after the Prop 8 ruling—reveals that the lives of thirty bisexual and gay men are fraught with danger and persecution. Of thirty men interviewed for this report, twelve identify as bisexual men while fifteen were age 25 or younger. The report goes on to reveal stories that many in the BLGT community are familiar with:

“It happened in December. A guy was stopped by militia. Out of nothing they start checking for documents. He didn’t have any. He’s a bit feminine, mannered – so they got it immediately. They said: “You’re gay, aren’t you? Let’s go to your parents now.” They demanded eight thousand soms.”

Labrys, an orginazation aimed at improving the quality of life for the BLGT community in the Kyrgyz Republic was founded in 2004 and currently has 1,000 members. Syinat Sultanalieva, executive director of Labrys, said in February that violations of the rights of people of non-traditional sexual orientation occur most frequently within the family, saying of her organization: “Our organization has started a ‘refuge’ project. We provide temporary accommodation to those people who have been thrown out of their homes, or who have left of their own accord because their families do not accept the choice they have made,” With bisexual and gay youth being thrown out of their homes and forced to seek refuge, it begins to become clear that the struggle for equality and acceptance is far from over.

Other battles are far more subtle and far more dangerous. Also within days of the prop 8 decision, bioethicists are accused a noted American pediatric endocrinologist and researcher of what they claim is the first attempt to prevent homosexuality and bisexuality in the womb. The pediatrician, Dr. Maria New of the Mount Sinai School of Medicine and Florida International University, is a longtime champion of the prenatal use of a powerful steroidal medication called dexamethasone to prevent the development of congenital adrenal hyperplasia (CAH )— a condition which can result in girls being born with ambiguous genitalia.

Amongst the bioethicists charging Dr. New is Alice Dreger, professor of clinical medical humanities and bioethics at Northwestern University’s Feinberg School of Medicine who charges:

“Her main goal has been to prevent ambiguous genitalia and all the things that come with it, including what she calls ‘behavioral masculinization’ [sic] She includes in that what she calls ‘masculinized orientation.’”

CAH has a status as a rare condition—prompting several medical societies to suggest guidelines be put in place that establish prenatal treatment for CAH as experimental. Additionally the guidelines will note that dexamethasone can cause low birth weight and birth defects. The proposed guidelines do not mention and are not concerned with sexuality or orientation.

This style of Eugenics may seem like something from science fiction—however, it is clear that the prejudices against gay, lesbian and bisexual men and women are alive and well and it appears that there is a long way to go before the war for equality is over.

Victory for Same-Sex Marriage as DOMA is Repealed

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Doma Justice courtesy "theadvocate.com"

It certainly has been a busy week in the BLGT community–specifically when it comes to the controversial topic of same sex marriage.  In a landmark ruling, the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) was ruled as unconstitutional in Federal Court.  DOMA was signed into law by President Bill Clinton on September 21, 1996 and is known for establishing two things:

  1. No state (or other political subdivision within the United States) needs to treat a relationship between persons of the same sex as a marriage, even if the relationship is considered a marriage in another state. (DOMA, Section 2)
  2. The federal government defines marriage as a legal union exclusively between one man and one woman. (DOMA, Section 3)

The Defense of Marriage Act has been controversial since it’s inception, and more recently was a campaigning point for President Clinton’s fellow Democrat and successor–President, Barack Obama.  President Obama was very vocal about the repeal of DOMA during his campaign, saying in an open letter on his website:

I support the complete repeal of the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA)
– a position I have held since before arriving in the U.S. Senate. While some say we should repeal
only part of the law, I believe we should get rid of that statute altogether. Federal law should not
discriminate in any way against gay and lesbian couples, which is precisely what DOMA does.

Although President Obama’s administration has been quiet on the DOMA ruling and is still reviewing the rulings, there have been other developments that have given a strong indication of the American Peoples’ opinions regarding the union of same sex couples . . . .

Elsewhere in the country, Manhattan’s Borough President, Scott Stringer made a decision regarding his own marriage.   A decision that–in and of itself–has made very clear, his opinion regarding same sex marriage. Stringer is a staunch supporter of everything “New York” from buying his coffee at the local coffee shop to rooting for the Jets. In a move considered by some to be highly unusual for someone that takes such pride in the place where they live, Stringer and his fiancee (Elyse Buxbaum) have decided not to have their upcoming wedding in New York–opting instead to get married in Connecticut, a state where same sex unions are legal. Mr. Stringer has been quoted as saying:

If enough people who have somewhat of a profile–not just politicians, but artists and business leaders–start going into Massachusetts or Connecticut and show New York how embarassing it is that you can’t get a marriage license for same-sex couples, then we will change things.

It would seem that as DOMA’s repeal has put the decision back in the hands of the states, that Stringer’s move makes it known that the leaders of our states are listening to the opinions of the BLGT demographic. Showing us all what a difference the voices of a few can make.

Bi Wishes For The New Year

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new year partyIt’s that time of year already—the holidays, and soon 2010 will upon us.

Everything I want, would be too big to fit into one article, so I’ve decided to focus on something I really care, and the only places I’ve ever truly felt at home—the bisexual & LGT communities.

Laws that acknowledge our rights and protect us. The Hate Crimes Law was a great first step, but more is needed. ENDA is a major one and for me an important one. While it stalls, many BLGT people worry about loosing their jobs—if the wrong person finds out about their sexual preference or gender identity. DADT as well—while we are fighting two wars, we can’t afford to leave some of our best soldiers such as Lt. Dan Choi behind just because they’re dating the wrong gender.

It’s time for DOMA to go. Last but not least, legalizing same-sex marriage all over the country would be a nice New Year’s present. As I write this my hometown of Washington DC has just done so (hopefully it will last this time!), and the BLGT community here is jubilant about it. That needs to happen in more places—state-by-state.

It would be good to see religious leaders and institutions that get political, called out on it. I know there were several churches collecting money for Prop 1 in Maine and Prop 8 in CA; I’ve heard a similar effort is being undertaken here in DC. Church and state don’t mix.  A lot of officials are afraid to do this because of the power conservative religion holds in our society—but how much longer can these institutions get away with breaking the law? Their efforts, their money, and the lies they have been able to spread with it—have been the biggest road blocks to equality that we’ve faced.

We are already seeing more acceptance of same-sex dating in our culture, but there needs to be more. Celebrities who are bisexual, gay, or trans[sexual], especially men, shouldn’t be afraid to come out for fear that it will ruin their careers. I’d like to see none of my friends have to worry about being the victims of hate crimes.

LensCrafters_Brand_120x240 (animated)More unity in the BLGT community is especially important.   A  great recent example of unity was the equality march—but if we’re ever going to get equality, we need to stop the squabbling amongst ourselves. We still see gender bias, misogyny, biphobia, transphobia, and many of the other problems that plague the straight community in the BLGT community as well. What is really encouraging is there is more and more of an effort to address these problems and come together for a dialogue—especially among younger people and activists—and I really want that to continue.

More people are focusing on the whole “queer commonality” of the entire community. There has been more of a growing acceptance of bisexual and transgender people, as well as others, and more of an effort to focus on our similarities (which are considerable) instead of our differences. Yes, it is slow moving and that can be frustrating, but slow and steady usually wins the race.

Last, but definitely not least, it would be nice to see my own bisexual community continue to grow. In the past year as a community we’ve really made strides not only in standing up for our place in the larger BLGT community, but also developing our diverse community of all those who are somewhere between gay and straight. It appears to be (slowly) getting more acceptable to actually say the word bisexual and biphobia is being called out as wrong! It would be nice to see that continue in 2010 and beyond. Better late than never!

So these are all my biggest hopes for our community, in this coming year and beyond. While I realize that most or all of them won’t happen in their entirety this coming year—it would be great to just see some major strides taken in these areas. Hopefully next year at this time we can look back and say “we came a long way this year!”

Happy New Year to everyone!

Maria,

Figuring Out Obama and DOMA

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Is the whole BLGT community up in arms about President Barack Obama’s position about DOMA? Read our Op-Ed from our Blogger Mizz M. Continue reading »

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