Where do I begin, Should I be outraged that a bi study yet again, has not talked about bisexual men and women together? Should I be enraged that media like Your Tango is reporting that bisexuals would be better off not identifying themselves at all; because of mental health stresses, or just the overall sadness of bi people wanting to hide in the shadows?
From what I can tell, using terms like “queer” is a better way to go because after all, we don’t want to be singled out and called into question, right? Let’s just use a great umbrella term that gives you no demographics for health care, mental health care, services for homeless youth, the poor and elderly who are bisexual. After all bi’s are just lumped into the gay and straight populations anyway, what’s the use of non-profits that support bi causes needing the money to help fight change—because, if you remove yourself—trust me you might as well not exist!
And let’s just make our lives easier, because after all, why should we not study the real reasons behind the mental health issues surrounding bi people. Lack of support—not being accepted on all fronts or understood and removed from the earth as we know it. I think my step-mom who is Jewish could say something about out of mind out of sight on history, right? Please, these issues are large, we get it. The bisexual population has a major issue with self-hatred (internal phobia), and until we get this one point, these studies we continue to say. Let’s do away with terms “bisexual label” because it just makes our life a whole lot better for me and my partner (s), the family and for everyone…and well, that’s just a great compromise? Hell no!
It’s raining [bi] men? Not in this study
And I’m just want to scream at all my bi male peeps that are not getting much love in these studies? Do bi men want to use the queer term? Do we know? Luckily, we are a couple of days away from the first ever, (that I know of) Bi Men’s Edition Mag, for my male gender friends. We love you and I see you. Bi Women peeps should read it too! Wink.
Using Terms You feel Comfortable With
Listen, if you want to use other terms that define you, I’m all for it! Great. Why not…but when an article and study tells me, I would be better off NOT being black, or NOT being bi or NOT being a woman, because well life is just too hard to deal with that baggage, then we need to look at the very root of what’s going on in the bi community. Do we want to run for cover in the “queer” label because it would just be better for mental Health and living?
Sorry, when I think of queer I think it’s talking about gay or lesbian people. Why? Because it was marketed, branded and given the gay seal of approve; so we can think of it that way! It omits everyone else! Well that’s how I see it.
I guess the bi flag is next. Food for thought.
